Doing Hard Things
The past few weeks have felt like a whirlwind to me.
Where did July go?
From traveling to Dallas for my annual MasterMind event and meeting with my Master Coach, to meetings and mentoring with fellow coaches, to the 4th of July holiday, to several meetings for a new company I am contracting with, to coaching clients in my one-one program, to working with my own coaches (yes – even coaches need coaches!), to my daughter being selected and now starting practice for the competitive dance team (at age 4?!), and to now planning my son’s soon-to-be first birthday party (Seriously. I do not know where the last year went!) – it has been a wild month to say the least.
Yet amidst all of the busyness and hustle of this last month, I’ve still been managing to do a lot of self-development. So much so, that I’ve been able to “read” (I use quotations because Audible and audiobooks are my best friends) three new books that have given me great new perspectives on my business, on my spirituality, and on how best to parent my children based on their natural energy types (which I find totally fascinating).
And at one point this month (even though I can’t pinpoint exactly when it came to me), a quote came to me and has since stayed with me and now inspired me to write this blog post: “Do the hard things so life can be easy. Or, do the easy things and life will be hard.”
As I reflect on this one, it really hits home.
How often do we really choose to do the hard things over the easy things?
For me, I can say, without a doubt, that this past year has been one of the most personally transformational, yet most challenging years of my life.
I’ve had to do some hard things.
Like leaving my mother knowing it would be the last time I would see her.
Like leaving my 4 week-old son in order to fly to California to complete my Life Coach training.
Like more recently having to say my final goodbye to my mother-in-law.
Like investing all of my time and energy (outside of everything else) to building my coaching practice.
Like facing all of my own S#%$ through the process.
It’s been a lot. And quite frankly, I’m ready for some “easy”.
But then I think about this quote and I see how having to do the “hard” is in fact in the process of creating the “easy”.
And when you really think about this, you can see how this is true with anything.
Think about trying to lose weight. You can’t keep your same eating and exercise habits and expect to lose weight. Instead, you need to make different choices and stick to your plan and go through the tough emotions and physical sensations that you don’t want to feel in order to lose the weight. (Ask anyone that’s lost a significant amount of weight – it never feels “easy”.)
The same goes for any other big change you’re trying to make in your life. Chances are, you have to make the choice and do “hard” so in turn, your life will be easier.
I feel like I’ve learned (and re-learned) this lesson many times in the past year.
And for clients of mine, anytime they are going through a major uplevel in their life or career it tends to feel “hard”. Yet, what’s waiting for them on the other side is everything they want (and usually more).
Just know that when things feel “hard”, the reality is that you are actually creating “easy” for yourself.
You might not see it right away.
Don’t give up.
Choose to do hard.
So your life can be easy.
I’d love to know – what “hard” are you currently facing? Let me know in the comments!
And, if you feel like you need support as you are faced with “hard” – I’d love to help. Click here to schedule a free coaching call: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=13605969&appointmentType=6136068